Saturday, March 28, 2009

Ten and Counting

Yesterday, we celebrated our 10 year anniversary. I had the most beautiful post written about my sweet hubby - but he disliked me sharing it - anyway, to avoid any further embarrassment - I guess you got to be "super fast" to read this blog. I posted it - then deleted it. I sent a post about posting it on face book, then deleted it. I am curious if anyone read it... anyway, it was worthy of reading. I love my husband (that was the gist of it). I had 10 reasons I love him - but I could name 100. Anyway... did I mention I really WANTED you to read it. I am excited about 10 years - not everyone makes it.

Well, moving on... guess what God showed me yesterday... I am reading through the Bible in "90 days"... I asked a few of you if you would keep me accountable and read along. Needless to say, there were NO takers. So, I started it last July, and it is well - a few more than 90 days - but God really cares that I read the Bible, but I KNOW he does not care if I read it in 90 days or 50 years. Well, maybe 50 years. But I started in Genesis, and I am now in Proverbs (past the middle if you are not Bible literate). God has taught me a lot.

Oh, back to yesterday - Proverbs 21:9 &19.

"Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman." (vs.9) "Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman." (vs.19)

Contentious women. Are you one? Am I? I hope not. What in the world does that word mean? Contentious? Webster says - "likely to cause an argument... exhibiting an often perverse and wearisome tendency to quarrels and disputes." Wow - how can a word so close to "content" or "contentment" mean something so different.

My commentary in my Bible said - "The wife is commanded to respond to her husband and respect him."

So, this of course, sent me over for some cheering up - since I do tend to be a bit argumentative - so I turned to Proverbs 31 - THE VIRTUOUS WIFE. Well, for some reason, when I read Proverbs 31 - I feel a bit lacking. This is so beautiful -

"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.

She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31: 10-12

"She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness." (vs. 26)

I have to admit even at 10 years, I was a bit contentious yesterday. You see I like BIG - Big EVENTS, Big PRESENTS, Big DEALS... Bigger is Better as they say in Texas. So, it was a nice day, but it is/was 10 years... we are planning a fabulous trip somewhere after Squash's surgery. But on THE DAY, God showed me that spending time with my husband was what was important- having a nice lunch and dinner - but I have to say the best meal was breakfast with the banana pecan pancakes my husband made for me. The point? Not sure if I had one. I find that my expectations are contentious. I know my expectations are wrong. No one could jump through those hoops, but I want what I want in my own selfish heart. I want AMAZING all the time, but I really want to learn to be CONTENT with today. So, my prayer is:

Lord, grant me contentment with today, and joy with the daily everyday moments. Grant me many more years of marriage, and give us peace in the upcoming days. Help me not to be a contentious wife that is "continually dripping" (Prov. 19:13).

Squash's surgery is scheduled for Monday, and we will be at the hospital at 6:00 a.m. Keep us in your prayers.


  1. Congrats on 10years!!! That is awesome, love the blog thanks for sharing your heart. Whats up with the sugery feel very out of touch but will be praying for God to guide the surgeons hands and for all of you to have Gods peace.


  2. Hey Andrea!

    I'm loving your blog! It's great to get the updates. So glad that Jude's surgery went well -sounded very stressful. Are you recovered yet? I love the verses you quoted above and the seeking your doing. I love chatting about contentment and appreciation for hubby. We're doing the 1 year bible - might be easier!! :) Looking forward to more news. Love you always, Janet :)